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Category: Life Lessons

Sick to My Soul

To quote Pastor Cline after the Las Vegas shootings “I am sick to my soul”.   A church, movie theater, school, concert – these places should be safe, sacred, and protected.  I refuse to believe that these behaviors are becoming “the new normal”  These act of hatred are not normal and never will be.  They are horrific. They are inexcusable. They are unforgettable. Yesterday the largest mass shooting in Texas’ history took place. A 26-year old man began shooting from outside Sutherland Springs’ First Baptist Church church.  As of this writing, there are 26 dead and more than 20 injured. My heart goes out to the victims and their families. My heart goes out to the survivors and their difficult journey to recovery. My heart goes out to the families of the shooters, what a heavy burden they must carry.  My heart goes out to the first responders who will forever have these images stored in their memories.  My heart goes out to  the bosses and co-workers who deal with the loss of…

Life Is About Timing

Life is about timing – expected or unexpected, for better or for worse, like it or not.  I know that everything happens for a reason.  It may take more time than I’d like to understand why.  Some things I may simply never understand.  Such is life. “If its meant to happen it will.  At the right time for the right reasons.”  – unknown  Merriam-Webster defines timing as: 1 a :placement or occurrence in time, b :the ability to select the precise moment for doing something for optimum effect.  Personally, I choose to think of timing as the lines drawn on the road in this journey called life. Here is an example of when timing was great.  I was a 19-year-old receptionist at The Production Company.  I came back from lunch one day to a notice on my desk that they were folding.  I could apply with the new start-up cable sports network, Home Sports Entertainment.  HSE is now known as FOX Sports Net Southwest.  I spent a few years on the production…

Proud to be a Geek

Yes, I am a geek and I am proud of it.  There I said it! Last week my friend Brad teased me because I was studying for my upcoming fantasy football drafts. He said I was a fantasy geek. I said there is a big difference in fantasy football champion and fantasy football geek.  He said geek. I admit that I was slightly offended and uncomfortable with the term.  The more I thought of it, yes, I am a geek.   If GEEK stands for Gives Everything Excels Keeper, then yes I am a geek.     I was surprised when I searched for the term geek how many different images and quotes came up. It seems I am not the only one who has a change of attitude about the word. “The word ‘geek’ today does not mean what it used to mean. A geek isn’t the skinny kid with a pocket protector and acne. There can be computer geeks, video game geeks, car geeks, military geeks, and sports geeks. Being a geek just means that you…

The Pain of a Layoff

Being laid-off is like having food poisoning, you only really know how it feels when it happens to you! It doesn’t matter if you were personally singled out in a restructure (aka a polite word for we don’t want you any more) or part of a larger workforce reduction – it hurts!  It is personal. A few months ago, I threw out this topic idea on LinkedIn and was surprised at the number of responses I received.  Here are the most common phrases used during my interviews with other victims: traumatic, complete surprise, devastated, blind-sided, disrespected, betrayed, and life-changing. Regardless of their loyalty to their boss or the company, seniority, ethics, character and work history – it happened and it hurt. The most important factor in how a person felt about the decision maker and the company itself was in how the message was delivered and how the exit process played out.  Delivering the message with humanity softened the blow.  Treating people, the person being laid-off and their co-workers, with respect…

My To Do List

It’s time that I put ‘me’ and ‘enjoy the journey’ higher on my to do list.  My guess is that this is true for many of you!  Do you feel guilty when you want time for yourself?  Do you feel like you will never get through your to do list?  When is the last time you – Relaxed? Took a nap? Called an old friend? Let the chores go undone and just had fun with family and friends? Smelled the Roses?  This blog was inspired by the song “My List” performed by Toby Keith, lyrics are in italics. “It is time that I make time for that.”  I am a type A, get ‘er done personality.  My son teases me that I make lists to make lists.  I am one of the most productive, efficient and organized people I know.  I love to volunteer and willingly do things for others.  I am a ‘give it my all or nothing’ kind of person.  For most of my adult…

One Call Away

Yesterday has passed and tomorrow is a gift not a promise.  This edition was inspired by Charlie Puth’s song “One Call Away” lyrics – “I’m only one call away, I’ll be there to save the day, Superman’s got nothing on me, I’m only one call away. No matter where you go, you know you’re not alone”.   The simple act of making a phone call can make a big impact to strengthen a friendship or a professional relationship. In today’s world of electronic communication, often people will send a text or an email.  This works well for many types of communication.  However, the act of a the personal connection from a phone call will make a longer-lasting impression and have a greater impact. One day last September I was in the darkest place I had ever been in my life.  I was angry, sad, heartbroken, afraid and lonely.  I truly felt the crushing impact of disappointment, distress and despair. Then my dear…